Qu'est-ce que le Consentement (RÉELS)?

Rituaels is one of those mythical experiences where sensuality, pleasure, excitement, and mystery abound.Through these curious explorations, one central anchor prevails: CONSENT.

Consent is the guiding thread that ensures each experience remains rich, sacred, safe, and enjoyable for every participant—whether an artist, human furniture, or guest. It is a conscious and joyful commitment, an agreement that is respected and benefits everyone involved.

We thank Calia and Club L for sharing and actively popularizing this essential approach to consent, which we are honored to share with you here.

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To remember its key elements, think REELS: Reversible, Enlightened, Enthusiastic, Liberated, Specific.

R — Reversible

A yes can always become a no. For any reason—or even no reason at all—if it no longer feels right, you can stop. The central idea? Listen to your boundaries and honor them. After all, a yes that turns into a no too late benefits no one.

It can be helpful to agree in advance on a code or safeword. It allows for an immediate stop, even when words fail or emotions run high.

E — Enlightened

Before saying yes, make sure everything is clear: who is involved, what the activity is, where and when it will take place, and most importantly, why. This prevents misunderstandings and ensures everyone fully understands what they are consenting to.

Ask questions and clarify the details. Saying yes to something vague is like agreeing to navigate blindly.

E — Enthusiastic

A yes is not just a polite or habitual agreement. It must be felt, desired, and enthusiastic. If the desire isn’t there, it’s a disguised no.

Take a moment to feel your true desire. Imagine the situation and notice your internal reaction: are you ready to experience this moment with pleasure?

L — Liberated

Consent must be given without intoxication, pressure, manipulation, or fear. A yes is only valid if a no would be easy and respected.

Check the other person’s state and the context. Someone who is too tired, under the influence, or under pressure cannot freely give consent.

S — Specific

A yes for one thing does not mean yes for everything. Each step, each activity, each person requires clear and renewed consent.

Always specify the scope of your agreement: “Yes, but just for this…” and reiterate it as needed.

In Conclusion

A yes is only a true yes if it is REELS: Reversible, Enlightened, Enthusiastic, Liberated, and Specific. Taking the time to ensure these criteria are met allows everyone to experience the moment with pleasure and safety. And if any criterion is not respected, there is no judgment—only an opportunity to learn, communicate, and better honor each other next time.